After several years of complaining about my lack of close friends, I have finally decided to do something about it! My new venture starts today in an attempt to meet a female confidante in 90 days or less. I have always hated making friends because it is so difficult! It really is almost like dating... You gotta have the same interests, you have to make time for eachother. I have always envied the girls who can make friends so easily, because I'm not like most girls.
Ahem. Confession time. I like video games, superheroes, comedies like Anchorman and Tropic Thunder. I love a good zombie film. I hate reading books about sappy BS and silly love stories. That being said I also like some other things... sewing, knitting, crafting, hiking, running, playing tennis and volleyball (complete amateur I assure you).
Last night I went to a friend's birthday party with my husband and realized how differnt our lives really were. I watched the lady friends filter in and noticed that my color choice of clothing was vastly different from theirs. Also, there was a HUGE issue for me: it was a cookout! I had no idea it was a cookout, how could I not know? I enjoy a good cookout, but if I had been aware I would have wore something different (flats instead of heels) and brought some kinda food to cook on the grill... sigh. I found myself closing my friendliness off immediately. Those girls were nice, i'm sure, but... they are not "my type" (it is really like dating).
My husband and I left early because we were going to see a movie. It was a great comedy called Ted and I laughed like a crazy person!
Last night I decided to text the female portion of one of our couples friends to see if she would like to have dinner with me for a "ladies night". I have yet to receive a response. Again, like dating, I can't wait for her to let me know!
Today I decided to do a search to see if there were any online friend sites and low a be hold I discovered meetup.com! At first I was like, "i'm not joining the women's social group because I don't like the books they have been reading, it's all sappy BS". However, another part of me said, f*** it give it a chance, it's not like all they do is read. And, I can always create my own event for a meetup. So I joined and I'm trying to think of a fun activity to start a meetup of my own but it's so darn hot here that I am afraid of creating an outside meetup. hmmm....
Miss Jamie-
ReplyDeleteYou are one of the coolest people I know. You see things in a very different light than most ladies and I feel that is why you have the issues you explained. Fear not- my lady is not all that much different from you. Although she despises zombie movies (not for their content, but rather for their sound effects), she too has issues relating to other women.
That is the good thing. There are women out there just like you who love all the "traditionally boy" things that you expressed. Going online to a social site is. Good first step, but I wonder if there are any social gathering places where you might find other women like yourself that could be explored.
I would imagine many of the women with whom you would associate well with may have similar hesitations to joing a social site like the one you referred to. I am not a huge fan of you living where you do, simply due to the fact that I am not able to see you as much as I would prefer. Lately I have had a difficult time meeting up with many of my friends, so be not discouraged.
I actually was planning to attend the little get-together yesterday, but our babysitter fell through at the last minute and, needless to say, I was not the "happiest of campers".
Apparently I went a bit off subject and just now noticed. In any case, what I am trying to say is, let's make this little experiment happen, cap'n!! I will be following your progress and randomly inserting my uneducated, non-professional psychoanalysis for your reading pleasure.
You're welcome!!
Thanks Justin! We'll see what happens; hey I'm up for getting out of the box once in awhile. It beats staying inside and being a log! I always like Alyssa. It really is too bad we live so far away! Totally down for another cookout at your place though if your two schedules allow. Weekdays are good for us until Aug 5th when Mike goes back to his teaching job.
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